What is Shame and How Do We Minimize It?

Even as many think it’s wrong and mean to go out of one’s way to “shame” people (*except, when it’s deserved), it’s not clear that shame will go away simply because we are kinder to each other and give each other greater benefit of the doubt.

The reason, it seems to me, is that shame is then flip side of honor, so that in a culture where honor is a compe…